Last week Prince died. We are almost the same age. Old interviews have been playing, concert clips, SNL even devoted an entire show to him. The one thing that stands out for me is that everyone that knew him is saying “he was a very private person”.
You can see that during the SNL 40th anniversary clip where he played “Let’s Go Crazy”. The second it was over, he bolted off the stage. My uneducated guess is it was all too much.
So much self-help (and I read and have read A LOT of self-help books) tell you how it is important to move out of your comfort zone. Just like a muscle, you need to stretch it to build it. That’s great but what about those of us that don’t have a comfort zone?!
For the bulk of my life I honestly didn’t have a comfort zone. I yearned for a comfort zone. Sure at home or out with good friends I was okay but not always at work, not at work events, not even necessarily when I went to my relatives or parent’s home. Social events could be bad too. I just thought it was the way things were and I needed to power through it. Most people had no clue that was how I felt because I did a good job of covering my discomfort.
Even with the fear, I still did a lot of new things that many people stronger than myself wouldn’t try. I went for promotions at work, trained to become a serious voiceover artist, traveled to foreign countries (sometimes by myself). When you always feel fear, what’s a little more fear?
This constant angst brought some good. I was good at preparing, being organized, learning, and leading. My angst made me cognizant of others and gave me a heightened sense of empathy. I tried to never knowingly throw someone under the bus.
Over the years though I started to realize this is not a good way to live. It kills creativity, promotes stress and depression and basically holds you back even when you feel like you’re moving forward.
I realized I put strategies in place by default to help me cope and keep me calm.
If you feel like you don’t have a comfort zone or for those times when it’s all just too much, here are some of my strategies:
Breaking ruts aka stepping out of your comfort zone is important for personal and professional growth but learning to manage the stress that can come with it is equally important. Now go out there and make a difference, calmly!
Eva Lewandowski MBA, is a certified Life Coach, certified EFT Practitioner, seminar leader, speaker and co-host of a weekly internet radio show “Corporate Talk with Charlie and Eva”. She is also a 30 year veteran of Corporate America as an IT consultant. Using the skills she learned in acting classes, life coaching and EFT certification training as well as her struggle with debilitating stage fright, she created, Stand Up and Be Heard!, a program that teaches professionals how to overcome their fear of the spotlight. She is also the author of “Put on Your Phone Face: Tips and Techniques for teleconferences and conference calls”.
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