What do you think about the idea of following your heart? Do you believe the heart guides us wisely? Or should we follow our heads and ignore our hearts?
The questions above were our writing circle prompts. The prompts followed a quote from The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt. One line reads “What if the heart, for its own unfathomable reasons, leads willfully and in a cloud of unspeakable radiance away from health, domesticity, civic responsibility and strong social connections and all the blandly-held common virtues and instead straight toward a beautiful flare of ruin, self-immolation, disaster?”
Here are my thoughts:
I do believe in following your heart but I believe in following your true heart.
The problem is finding it.
You have to look under layers of familial hoopla, expectations, fear, rage and other assorted caca.
There, deep deep down you stick your arm in all the way to the pit and then stretch a little more. There you’ll find your little, red blob of pure crimson pulse.
That is your real heart. The heart that can throw you into the abyss if you listen to societal norms. (Think Joan of Arc and Jesus).
Yeah, following your true heart can definitely lead you into what many would call disaster. But if you can lift your head up out of the ashes and say “holy crap, let’s do it again” you know you’ve found it.
Following your heart doesn’t always lead to sums of cash, the perfect partner, yachts and fabulous haircuts but it can. I do believe it leads to a bliss few have experienced. Playing it safe never does.
Following your heart takes many moments of courage, planning, a narrow focus, and the ability to keep your plan close to the vest while it incubates. Once hatched, then your plan should be shared regardless of whether it’s met with popped bottles of champagne or smirks.
It’s not always easy, especially when what you’re doing is completely different than what is the norm. Friends and family will look at you as if you’re crazy. Just stay focused (I’m talking to myself) and keep following your heart.
It’s a life long journey but well worth it!
Eva Lewandowski MBA, is a certified Life Coach, certified EFT Practitioner, seminar leader, speaker and co-host of a weekly internet radio show “Corporate Talk with Charlie and Eva”. She is also a 30 year veteran of Corporate America as an IT consultant. Using the skills she learned in acting classes, life coaching and EFT certification training as well as her struggle with debilitating stage fright, she created, Stand Up and Be Heard!, a program that teaches professionals how to overcome their fear of the spotlight. She is also the author of “Put on Your Phone Face: Tips and Techniques for teleconferences and conference calls”.