Would you lie?
Would you steal?
Would you kill someone?
I know, kinda dramatic but is it really?
When desperation kicks in, perfectly nice, normal people are capable of perfectly not-so-nice abnormal behavior and ALL of us are susceptible.
We lie to ourselves
We steal our dreams
We kill our hopes and our essential selves
It keeps us in toxic relationships
It keeps us from speaking our truth
It keeps us from following our dreams
Not-so-nice abnormal behavior can also be disguised. It can look like success; big car, big house, six-pack abs. It looks crazy happy on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter, yet we can’t sleep. We know sooner or later we’re not going to be able to keep up the 90 mile an hour pace.
The problem is even worse if you’re highly sensitive, introverted, empathetic, intuitive. Normal life can feel overwhelming, so when things get crazy, we just want to hide!
This realization hit me as I was reading a book by Neale Donald Walsh. The line that resonated discussed how trying to survive overrides everything; morals, values, good judgement. Survival will override all of it!
The other morning, Charlie and I talked about a large global organization we both had worked for. I brought up what a bullying place it was. The worst part (if I’m being honest with myself) is we were ALL a part of it. We wore our crazy hours, sarcasm, and toxic attitudes like a HUGE badge of honor.
The environment wasn’t created by us but we certainly condoned it by not trying to change it.
As we stood by, fellow consultants and employees were belittled or fired. We complained about the work environment but we kept going. Why?
Because we had mortgages, rent, kids, junk to buy, vacations to take to exotic locales (that were always interrupted by emails and emergency conference calls.)
Since I was a consultant, I knew my time was limited. The pace took a toll though. I cracked two teeth from clenching at night and I jumped every time my cell phone rang for a year after the contract ended.
I knew others I worked with felt completely stuck. They were afraid to venture out, certain that other organizations were just as toxic and many were.
The real truth was they were too scared to lose any of it. They didn’t want to lose one inch of the perceived status they had worked so hard to create. Neither did I.
That bullying corporate structure that we allowed to flourish has now taken over our country and many of us are just trying to survive.
In the past, we watched helplessly as people lost their jobs, weren’t given a decent living wage, were harassed, bullied and abused, gunned down at school, church, work or a concert.
We shook our heads, got angry but did little to change things. Feeling helpless, we hunkered down to make sure the crisis didn’t impact US, personally.
Survival mode makes us:
Bury our heads in the sand
Have too much wine at dinner
Eat junk food
Watch crazy videos
Post rants on Facebook and feel gross afterwards
Things are changing dramatically as more of us speak up but we have to keep going and not let this become the “new normal” again.
Charlie and I discuss how to start moving out of survival mode in segment three of the latest episode of Corporate Talk with Charlie and Eva. You can listen to the 14 minute segment HERE.
This show isn’t just about those that work in Corporate America, it’s for all of us!
Let’s work on thriving! I’m right here with you!
Eva Lewandowski MBA, is a certified Life Coach, certified EFT Practitioner, seminar leader, speaker and co-host of a weekly internet radio show “Corporate Talk with Charlie and Eva”. She is also a 30 year veteran of Corporate America as an IT consultant. Using the skills she learned in acting classes, life coaching and EFT certification training as well as her struggle with debilitating stage fright, she created, Stand Up and Be Heard!, a program that teaches professionals how to overcome their fear of the spotlight. She is also the author of “Put on Your Phone Face: Tips and Techniques for teleconferences and conference calls”.