How free are we really?
I personally don’t know anyone that has grown up completely free of the attitudes and beliefs of their family. Our religion, our skin color, our thinking around money and finances and even how we eat is strongly influenced by our family.
A lot of us were raised to not question our parents, our religious leaders, our teachers, than later our managers, or anyone with money because “they must be good at what they do.”
It isn’t until something happens to us and helps us see things in a new way, do we start thinking about changing.
We’re harassed at work and are subsequently unjustly fired.
A trusted priest abuses us.
A dear friend or relative dies of AIDS.
Our child is relentlessly bullied and becomes despondent.
A relative contracts a deadly illness and is dropped by their insurance carrier.
When we think differently we form or join groups of like-minded people to fight back because we know we can’t fight back alone.
Civil rights, women’s lib, gay rights, persons with disabilities rights. Groups formed as a way of fighting back.
But I’ve always questioned why we need to fight separately. For example, why wouldn’t a civil rights leader support women’s rights? What if you’re a gay woman with disabilities? Where do you put your energy?
At the risk of being simplistic
Isn’t harassment in any form, harassment?
Aren’t we all created equal?
Shouldn’t we be allowed to live the way that suits us without fear of recrimination?
Shouldn’t we help those that need help without judgment, criticism or rules?
Why are we still trying to push our beliefs on others?
I believe we need a new strategy.
It’s time to stand together. All of us, together. Men, women, straight, gay, all colors, all ethnicities. TOGETHER!
We are all connected. We are all one. As vastly different as we are, we are not separate.
I truly believe that:
If we allow people to be hungry, we will never be full.
If we allow people to live in poverty, we will never have enough.
If we harshly judge others’ failures, we will never fully embrace our successes.
If we bully and harass, we will never feel safe.
If we feel we are better than others because of our profession, our color, our gender, our sexual preference we will never feel fulfilled.
And finally, if we don’t love ourselves unconditionally, we will never feel truly loved.
It’s time to drop our conditioning and join together to ensure equality under the law free from harassment.
Everyone. Always. Together.
I don’t pretend to have any answers but I deeply feel that if we start by making ourselves happy and work outward, we will have a tremendous impact on the planet. Even if we make just one person smile today.
As weak as some may feel that is, making the people around you feel safe, secure, and acknowledged without judgment is a huge accomplishment.
Charlie and I are reaching out to see how we can make an impact. I will keep you posted as to our progress.
In the meantime, understand that your very presence on the planet has an impact just by the way you treat everyone you encounter.
Eva Lewandowski MBA, is a certified Life Coach, certified EFT Practitioner, seminar leader, speaker and co-host of a weekly internet radio show “Corporate Talk with Charlie and Eva”. She is also a 30 year veteran of Corporate America as an IT consultant. Using the skills she learned in acting classes, life coaching and EFT certification training as well as her struggle with debilitating stage fright, she created, Stand Up and Be Heard!, a program that teaches professionals how to overcome their fear of the spotlight. She is also the author of “Put on Your Phone Face: Tips and Techniques for teleconferences and conference calls”.